Permissive Parenting

Permissive parenting often comes from a place of love, but what happens when warmth comes without enough structure or follow-through? In this episode of Growing Strong Roots, occupational therapist Lee-Anne Bloom and parenting partner Tom Guiney unpack the research behind parenting styles and explore why permissive parenting can unintentionally fuel anxiety, dysregulation, and dependence, especially for neurodivergent kids. Through real-life examples and occupational therapy strategies, they discuss the difference between control and structure, why consistency matters, and how parents can hold boundaries without losing compassion. You’ll hear practical tools for managing meltdowns, scaffolding independence, and avoiding reinforcement of unwanted behaviors. This conversation is a grounded look at how loving limits and predictable routines help children build resilience, self-regulation, and confidence over time.

 

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